ANXIETY! Usually when hearing this, there is judgment made on many different levels. Our lives and how they are lived and our spiritual lives and how they are lived. FUNNY isn’t it? No matter what, both “lives” come under scrutiny. Most of us have enough guilt to last a few lifetimes, so I looked up ANXIETY and found it can very well be a disease that we have no control over.
For a moment, I would like to look at the “SPIRITUAL” side of things. When reading blogs and posts on other sites, one thing that stands out is the “spiritual” side of those who bear hidden illness’s and what is born from all outside (and inside) influences CAN NOT BE DONE unless one has something to hold on too. If those who sit on the judgment seat had experiences in life – almost to death, (writing funeral plans) and felt unbelief from the very ones they needed help from, feeling those they loved turn away in their darkest hours, were considered “shut in’s”, etc…. please tell me WOULD THERE NOT BE TEARS AND SOBS AT TIMES??? Or are they hard hearted and would never break down? I certainly hope not. Those who care, are those who shed the most tears. Those in pain are those who beg to God for help.
Did not Jesus have to pray three times to his Father and had sweat that was blood? Was that not a type of anxiety? Fear of the unknown, facing or have faced traumatic situations brings trauma. Can we not see this in the bible? It doesn’t mean there was NOT faith, but these people stayed on their knees until COURAGE equaled their FAITH!
I agree whole heartedly that many people have anxiety because of not giving their struggles and troubles to God. But, be careful of judging those who’s life is a struggle every moment – what they are going through, yet still at peace. can still produce feelings of anxiety!
Let’s take a look at what is said about ANXIETY…..
Do we not recognize this baby had anxiety? Stressed? What happened? Someone reached out in love, and calmed this little one down. Someone with love. Someone who had only an instinct. Beautiful!~ Absolutely beautiful! Don’t you agree? Without judgment? Judgment flees in cases like this, but why is there a tendency to NOT give what a person needs (LOVE, SUPPORT) when in an “anxiety” position? Judgment. Nothing but POOR judgment. SAD. SAD.
Anxiety is from being:
Hypoglycemic. (Diet causes hypoglycemia.)
Hypoglycemia causes too much cortisol and vice versa. DIET IS ABSOLUTELY IMPORTANT TO KEEP BLOOD SUGARS STABLE, THEREBY, KEEPING CORTISOL AT A NORMAL LEVEL
Being a very sensitive person. (This is written, I did NOT make it up)
Some we have control over, with the help of God, such as diet…..
Besides our diet, there are other lifestyle issues that eventually will cause a breakdown:
Feeling powerless and hopeless about your life. This is why those with certain types of health issues have more anxiety.
Lack of having a social life.
Lack of someone to talk too.
Lack of physical contact.
Lack of sleep.
Lack of feeling secure in your own inviroment because of the above.
Lack of feeling secure because the basic human needs God has given man is unmet – especially in a time of great need.
Lack of support during grief – such as a loss of a loved one. It is detrimental to grieve and not to be cut off in grief by hearing “think positive”, or “get over it”. Hindering ones grief is setting them up for a breakdown. It causes the body to not be allowed to go through what it must be allowed to experience in order to go on with life. Lack of support in any situation that causes grief creates the same effect. This is when bad advice causes detrimental consequences.
In fact, those who have a health problem such as pain from many different health problems, especially invisible disabilities or invisible illnesses, is created by society and by themselves and WILL eventually have panic attacks. This is because their lifestyle creates the CAUSE for anxiety.
So it is important to learn how to overcome this in the way THAT IS BEST FOR THEM. Not someone else, but their own morning, daily, and evening routine. Learning to control thoughts, (yes, God comes in here very much!) to grieve appropriately, to be grateful, to HAVE SOMEONE TO TALK TO that is not judgmental, but who has the ability to listen without giving their personal advice. To feel connected to people as a whole.
Unfortunately, because of the nature of beliefs – there is isolation, lack of contact to those we love, lack of those who can listen with out judgment or giving their opinion, and those who have unbelief about what people are dealing with in their life (bad health, a bad marriage, loss of people they love, unbelief in the medical profession, etc…)
Humans are a social species. Isolation is BAD for HEALTH and BAD for our SPIRITUALITY.
One’s trust in God is always attacked as the first line of defense, (even by the medical community) which is odd, as typically that is the one thing is what has kept many until the body breaks down from cortisol and hypoglocicemia – AND what God has put in us as basic human needs: people, communication, friendship, etc… These things are taken away from false beliefs that the person is “wanting attention”, “is being selfish”, or “only wants to talk about their problems”, etc… Just as ANYONE who has negative problems in their life – has someone they can talk too, has friendships that are solid, and is not isolated. And above all, they have a relationship that is strong with God. One without the other WILL cause anxiety because of how we were created.
What is sad, is those that have created a life that gives fulfillment to their basic needs ‘in affliction’, finds it hard even still because the basic mindset is already “set” regarding those with invisible health issues. Constant pain can not be comprehended, therefore the abiity to be actively empathetic isn’t common. At least after the time frame for getting well has passed!~
Forcing one’s self to “get over” something is adding punishment on top of fear. Which leads to a breakdown. Yet this is what is told. “Be positive”, “you need to get over it”. How can a person “get over it” if they don’t have all the tools God gave to “get over it”? How do they think a person has gotten this far before a breakdown? The mind is mislead into thinking positive without acknowledging to one’s self and to others that life is NOT positive. No one is willing to listen UNLESS it is a disease that is acceptable. Such as cancer, etc… Being positive and getting over it can not happen unless basic human needs are met. Being social, having communication (someone to talk too), not being alone until one is ready, are basic tools we need to overcome. Which the opposite happens when one has an invisible illness.
It is a KNOWN FACT, that isolation, (which brings on the others listed) is real in those with invisible illness’s. There are many closed groups on social media, where people can have a place to discuss and find validation – but there is no physical contact, and they are basically unknown. It fills a need somewhat. Yet on the same social media, we see those who are supported that have acceptable illness therefore the one who has an “unacceptable illness” is quiet about their daily life and what it is like – as it makes others uncomfortable. They don’t reach out, they don’t see the signs of going down hill – yet this is SOCIAL media! Again, this leads to a breakdown and one needs to keep away as much as possible from this type of media. Neglect on social media is the biggest neglect that can cause a breakdown, because it is obvious that there is antisocialism towards the person who is asking for help. In fact, studies are in place as the devestation seems to be leading to more social media suicide. It becomes obvious that everyone is not interested. Before, one was never sure.
It is like drowning in a crowd, and waving for help, causes waving back as if to say “we see you, hope you are having fun”. It is the WORST type of isolation inflicted.
One must have physical contact. Even if it’s from having a foot rub, back rub, etc… Touch is a basic human need. Withholding this will cause a breakdown. Especially if the other mentioned above is not met.
Anyone who judges a lifestyle and the need to live it in a certain way, is not someone to listen too. It is important to have a routine that works best and is done EVERY MORNING, DURING THE DAY AND IN THE EVENING.
Beginning with deep breaths, to calm the body as cortisol is the highest in the morning. Hypoglocemia is low in the morning. Eating a protein based breakfast is essential to those who suffer from anxiety. “Starchy” foods only cause the blood sugar to go lower, sending cortisol higher. This must be controlled by diet as the first line of defense.
Laughter is the best medicine. Listening to funny You Tubes or movies is a great way to let the tension (anxiety) out. Doing 20 -30 minutes of exercise is another way to let the tension of high levels of cortisol be used up. Having contact with other people during the day, communication, etc… is part of the wellness routine. Prayer is above all, no matter how short or scattered, gives peace to many!
Unfortunately, again – those who study pain patients find they are unable to meet people – to find new friendships. When they became ill, commonly their friends (and at times, relatives) are the first to leave them hanging. The attitude of unbelief and abandonment leaves one being set up for a breakdown. The God given needs one has – is not being met. But it is justified in the minds of others by what they PERCEIVE is happening.
In most cases, there is a movement of advocacy that brings attention to this problem and it is educational to those who do not understand. Unfortunately, the ones who usually would stand up and bring attention to this issue are the very ones who CANNOT stand up and bring awareness because of the devestating pain. The pain that has taken away their lifestyle, and has taken away who they were. They deal with untruths that is certain to eventually take them down. Unfortunately, it is rare they have family members who are close enough to understand and are advocates for their health – mentally, physically and spiritually. When this happens, the person is left to their own devices, which are already broken.
The bible speaks against this very harshly, as it takes away a basic human need from a population that is very needy. Yet it is justified in the minds of those who do this. While one rarely asks about the devotion to God in regards to treatment of those who are silently needy – those who have a devotion to God because of their need must give account of their devotion. This is a bit backwards even biblically.
Then when the basic human, God given needs are not met, and there is a mental breakdown, an instant judgement of “why”, and having their faith critizised is devasting!
Studies have shown isolation causes more inflammation and more pain. Not being able to talk about life shows more issues in regards to health. Therefore, as more isolation and less of basic human needs are met, there are more health issues that come up. This is breeding ground for latent virus that come back alive (and can kill). Extreme stress is the cause. Having good support is paramount to having a good immune system. This is not to point fingers, but to bring attention to the myths of those with chronic illness. The caregivers are not immune, as they are subject to the same “rules”. Rarely is their health inquired about, or how things are going in the home. Or rather – not inquiring insinuates a lack of genuine interest. Therefore, the story can not be told, if the heart isn’t in the asking.
At times, others have not resolved their own issues, therefore are unable to attend to another. This might be from a possible “self” mode, but may have never had proper support themselves. BUT those who are trying to make the best of their situation, caring for themselves and having an interest in others, in offering their love beyond what they are able – can also lead to a breakdown. Being ill does not take away the faith inside that still moves them to help another.
Learning breathing techniques to calm ones self, meditation and exercise, along with a proper diet is the only way to bring anxiety under control. Prayer is a type of meditation, thus in service to God, there can be relief. If God cannot move the hearts of others to give basic needs, then why are fingers pointed in the direction of the ill person?
Odd that research mimics what the bible speaks!
Matthew 7:2-4 New International Version (NIV)
2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
Job 4 New International Version (NIV)
Eliphaz WHAT HAPPENS FIRST? JOB’S SPIRITUAL LIFE IS ATTACKED! WE KNOW JOB WAS A SAVED MAN AND WE KNOW THE STORY BEHIND WHAT THIS WAS ALL ABOUT. JOB DID NOT. THESE MEN WERE “RIGHTEOUS MEN”. BUT SELF-RIGHTEOUS MEN! If not for the mercy of Job and his forgiveness, then men would not have been redeemed. This is frightening, and a lessen to each on of us. Careful of WHO and WHAT we are accusing. Jesus did not come to accuse/condemn, but to save. Why should we?
4 Then Eliphaz the Temanite replied:
2 “If someone ventures a word with you, will you be impatient?
But who can keep from speaking?
3 Think how you have instructed many,
how you have strengthened feeble hands.
4 Your words have supported those who stumbled;
you have strengthened faltering knees.
5 But now trouble comes to you, and you are discouraged;
it strikes you, and you are dismayed.
6 Should not your piety be your confidence….
12 Then Job replied:
2 “Doubtless you are the only people who matter,
and wisdom will die with you!
3 But I have a mind as well as you;
I am not inferior to you.
Who does not know all these things?
4 “I have become a laughingstock to my friends,
though I called on God and he answered—
a mere laughingstock, though righteous and blameless!
5 Those who are at ease have contempt for misfortune
as the fate of those whose feet are slipping.
6 The tents of marauders are undisturbed,
and those who provoke God are secure—
those God has in his hand.[a]
13 “If only you would hide me in the grave
and conceal me till your anger has passed!
If only you would set me a time
and then remember me!
Job 15 New International Version (NIV)
15 Then Eliphaz the Temanite replied:
2 “Would a wise person answer with empty notions
or fill their belly with the hot east wind?
3 Would they argue with useless words,
with speeches that have no value?
4 But you even undermine piety
and hinder devotion to God.
5 Your sin prompts your mouth;
you adopt the tongue of the crafty.
6 Your own mouth condemns you, not mine;
your own lips testify against you.
7 “Are you the first man ever born?
Were you brought forth before the hills?
8 Do you listen in on God’s council?
Do you have a monopoly on wisdom?
9 What do you know that we do not know?
What insights do you have that we do not have?
10 The gray-haired and the aged are on our side,
men even older than your father.
11 Are God’s consolations not enough for you,
words spoken gently to you? A SPIRITUAL ACCUSATION
Job 16New International Version (NIV)
16 Then Job replied:
2 “I have heard many things like these;
you are miserable comforters, all of you!
The first week, they were a comfort. No talking as they were grieving with their friend. Most likely meeting his needs. Wonderful friends until they opened their mouth.
3 Will your long-winded speeches never end?
What ails you that you keep on arguing?
4 I also could speak like you,
if you were in my place;
I could make fine speeches against you
and shake my head at you.
5 But my mouth would encourage you;
comfort from my lips would bring you relief.
Why did Job say this? Because he had DONE this before.
A VERY SAD CHAPTER:
Job 17 New International Version (NIV)
17 1 My spirit is broken,
my days are cut short,
the grave awaits me. Suicide is very high in ill persons. “Broken”
2 Surely mockers surround me;
my eyes must dwell on their hostility.
3 “Give me, O God, the pledge you demand.
Who else will put up security for me?
4 You have closed their minds to understanding;
therefore you will not let them triumph.
5 If anyone denounces their friends for reward,
the eyes of their children will fail.
6 “God has made me a byword to everyone,
a man in whose face people spit.
7 My eyes have grown dim with grief;
my whole frame is but a shadow.
8 The upright are appalled at this;
the innocent are aroused against the ungodly.
9 Nevertheless, the righteous will hold to their ways,
and those with clean hands will grow stronger.
10 “But come on, all of you, try again!
I will not find a wise man among you.
11 My days have passed, my plans are shattered.
Yet the desires of my heart
12 turn night into day;
in the face of the darkness light is near.
13 If the only home I hope for is the grave,
if I spread out my bed in the realm of darkness,
14 if I say to corruption, ‘You are my father,’
and to the worm, ‘My mother’ or ‘My sister,’
15 where then is my hope—
who can see any hope for me?
16 Will it go down to the gates of death?
Will we descend together into the dust?”
To sum it up :
King James Version
And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.
David was GREATLY distressed. He was going to be killed for no reason.
3 So David and his men came to the city, and, behold, it was burned with fire; and their wives, and their sons, and their daughters, were taken captives.
4 Then David and the people that were with him lifted up their voice and wept, until they had no more power to weep.
Doesn’t this sound like some horrible breaking downing was occurring? Did this mean David wasn’t a man of God?
This was a great grief. His SOUL was protected because he knew where to turn for help. To God in prayer. He knew that was his only hope. David was not berated for his distress or grief. Heaven was thankful for his faith.